Pain vs Pleasure Worksheet

Often when you are in a relationship, you will reach a point where you will start questioning whether this relationship is working for you or not.

Perhaps you are thinking you most definitely want him to be a part of your life.

Perhaps you are thinking your needs are not being met.

Perhaps you have spoken to him about this and told him how you are feeling.
Perhaps you are tired of repeating to him how you feel and what you need.

Maybe he has not given you a clear indication that he has understood how you are feeling.

Maybe he HAS told you that he feels you are expecting too much of him.

Maybe he HAS told you he will change, and that he doesn’t want to lose you.

Where does all of this leave you?

What do YOU want?

You don’t want to lose him, but you also don’t want to live like this anymore. He tells you he is sorry. He tells you he needs more time. He tells you he loves you. You accept this, and agree you just need to give him a little more time.

Six months later, you find yourself in the same place, thinking you no longer want to live like this. You talk to him about it. He tells you he needs more time. He tells you he loves you. You accept this, and agree you just need to give him a little more time. It becomes a pattern, and the longer you leave it, the longer the cycle continues, and the longer you will remain in the same place you were before you had your very first deep chat with him.

This activity that will help you stop patterns and change behaviours because you associate massive pain to continuing the old pattern and you associate massive pleasure to the desired behaviours.